“You can’t judge a book by its cover,” is a truism. Nonetheless, that does not lessen the value of a book’s title. Selecting the right title is important, like giving the right name to your child. I chose “The Shape of Love” to introduce my book about the importance of moral virtue and its rootedness in love. Love transforms us. It gives us a certain shape, so to speak. Our lives are shaped by love and that shape should be evident to others. If we live by virtue, our lives should take on a certain luster. We think of the face of Jesus, or the actions of any number of the saints.
After my book was published, I came across another book bearing the same title. Gelsey Kirkland, a ballet legend and superstar of the dance world, also saw fit to title her book, a biography, The Shape of Love. The “shape” to which she alluded is the beautiful shape the ballerina achieves as she performs Romeo and Juliet, Sleeping Beauty, and other ballet classics. The title is most appropriate, although referring to the body rather than one’s life in general. The “ballet is about love,” Kirkland tells her readers. No one would counter such a claim.
Each of these books refers to a beautiful shape that is formed by love. At the same time, love is a quality that rises from within the person. Suppose, however, one could achieve a certain shape that is merely the product of one’s will? Is such a maneuver even possible? In today’s world in which the will is given centrality, the idea has become very popular.
Consider the 2017 romantic fantasy, The Shape of Water which the American Film Institute hailed as one of the top ten movies of the year. The main character was abandoned as an infant by the side of a river. She is a mute who finds work as a cleaner in a secret government laboratory. She falls in love with a watery creature, a humanoid amphibian. At the close of the movie, she develops gills and lives “happily ever after” in a watery environment, remaining steadfastly in love with the Amphibian Man.
Despite all the awards the movie garnered, film critic Rex Reed of the New York Observer, called is “a loopy, lunkheaded load of drivel”. He may have been right on the mark. Although the theme fits snugly into our modern day assumptions, it is, from a philosophical point of view, purely fantastical.
Jean-Paul Sartre is the philosophical forerunner to absolutizing freedom so that a person can form himself, achieve his shape, we might say, purely through the force of his will. This notion of absolute freedom is very attractive to many who may be discontent about the thought of being fixed to a stereotype. Would it not be glorious if one could be anything he wanted to be? For Sartre, we define ourselves in time through our choices. Being born male or female, therefore, would not limit people to a specific gender. People could change gender, have no gender, or slide from one gender to another. Terms such as bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, asexual, and nonmonosexual have come into our language.
Sartre, an atheist existentialist, provided a simple, straightforward principle to enunciate his notion of wide open freedom. He stated that “existence precedes essence”. When I first came across this statement I regarded it as the most philosophically indefensible claim I had ever read. It belonged, I thought, to the category of a joke. According to the more realistic thoughts that belong to the tradition of St. Thomas Aquinas, “existence does not exist”. Things exist. Being exist. Wherever there is existence, there is always something that exists. Existence cannot exist all by itself, no more than one hand can clap or that there could be a smile without a face. How could anyone believe for one second that a person could be completely lacking any essence or nature and somehow have the capacity to make choices. At least such a being would have the essence of a choice-maker.
Water, as we all know, has no shape. It is fluid. The only shape it can have belongs to the container in which it is placed. But we are not watery creatures seeking an alien shape. We are human beings who have a destiny that is rooted in our being. We are born with the capacity to love. It is love that gives us our shape, not our will. The LGBTQ+ consortium, however, is insisting that freedom of choice, contrary to what Genesis teaches, precedes sexual identity. Therefore, we can be whatever we want to be. But if we are nothings to begin with, we are doomed to that barren state because nothing comes from nothing. In truth, we are God’s creature, endowed with His image and likeness, and given the opportunity to become who we are.
The view that man is a nothing, looking to be a something, is an impoverished idea. We are made in a way that our inherent capacities for love, knowledge, truth, beauty, justice, goodness, and so on are available for our benefit, our delight, and our beatitude. We are beings who have been given freedom. But our freedom is not absolute. We are not free to unmake ourselves and become something other than ourselves. We are free to be ourselves. Our freedom is to say “yes” to the way God made us. That is a freedom that is both realistic and rewarding. It is a freedom that honors all the myriad gifts that God has made available to us. Let the shape of our love be the shape that God had in mind when He created us.
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