I was in the Niagara region for a wedding last weekend, and, cycling around, I came across this statue of George VI.

I liked the ring of ‘King of Canada’, but even more so the notion of a gentleman. A gentleman king, which is not far from Plato’s notion of a philosopher king.

Cardinal Newman said that the purpose of an education was not so much to produce a ‘Catholic’ – a formation that’s primarily between God and the soul – but a gentleman, cultivating in our minds, souls and bodies all the best that has been thought or said in our civilization. The reader may peruse the full description, but here is a brief excerpt:

If he engages in controversy of any kind, his disciplined intellect preserves him from the blundering discourtesy of better, perhaps, but less educated minds; who, like blunt weapons, tear and hack instead of cutting clean, who mistake the point in argument, waste their strength on trifles, misconceive their adversary, and leave the question more involved than they find it. He may be right or wrong in his opinion, but he is too clear-headed to be unjust; he is as simple as he is forcible, and as brief as he is decisive. Nowhere shall we find greater candor, consideration, indulgence: he throws himself into the minds of his opponents, he accounts for their mistakes. He knows the weakness of human reason as well as its strength, its province and its limits.

We could use not only a few (more) good men, but good gentlemen.

As the saying goes, manners maketh the man, and we have lost so many of our manners, which derive from our customs, which in turn depend on our culture, which, is founded on our religion. We act as we think, and we think as we believe. As we lose our Christian moorings, we are reverting also to a barbarism, which begins with little things, but ends quite tragically. As Pope John Paul says, abortion begins with the trivialization of sexuality, and the mistreatment, especially of the fairer sex.

So here are some tips:

  1. Always stand up when a woman or an elder than you enters a room, and offer your seat to them.
  2. Always subdue your emotions to the dictates of reason. Be decisive, but not hasty.
  3. Speak in moderation, and listen to others, not interrupting, and never praising yourself, even if jest. Never use salacious or scatological speech, especially in the presence of women. And pornography is anathema to a gentleman.
  4. Eat also in moderation, with proper use of utensils. Ensure that others are served first, especially if you are the host.
  5. Never imbibe alcohol past the point of hilarity – which means, again, always having a hold on our reason.
  6. Dress appropriately for each occasion, and always modestly.
  7. Respond to correspondence in a timely, and courteous, manner.
  8. Keep fit, and know how to defend yourself and others, but don’t display your strength. ‘Bodybuilding’ and any overt display of musculature are unfitting.
  9. Cultivate your mind, with apt principles for our own thought, growth and for conversation with others, using your time well. This is where a liberal arts education helps immensely, and why Newman connected such with becoming a gentleman.
  10. Always strive to instill virtue not only in ourselves, but in others, and act in such a way that they see goodness and truth as attractive. Think well of others, as Newman says, as possible future friends. Lead others, if you are called to do so, as you would have yourself be led, suaviter et fortiter, sweetly, but boldly.

More could be said, but I hope this is a helpful start. I’m not sure how much George VI lived out Newman’s notion of a gentleman, but he seems to have done a better job of it than many of our current crop of leaders. The world would be a much better place if everyone were charitable and a saint, we can start with at least being courteous, and gentle.

 

 

 

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